Related: I know that incest is currently a popular fetish, but I discovered a long time ago that if a girl looks too much like my sister its an immediate turn-off. It did take me a little while to connect why I found so many models, who seemed to be popular, so unattractive.
I don’t think I’ve ever meet anyone who looks like mom, so that hasn’t been an issue. My wife resembles no-one in my family.
Freud claimed all men want to marry their mothers. I haven’t found this to be commonly true, and now I don’t trust “daddy issues” being common, either.
Daddy Issues isn’t the same as “marrying your mother”.
I’ve always heard the former was about having a poor relationship with your father, and the latter about whatever your maternal relationship was like, good or bad.
It’s not, the Oedipal complex is a correlation. The “marrying one’s parent” phenomenon most certainly has a psychological causality somewhere, but it’s certainly not due to a generally applicable Oedipal complex.
A concrete example, the only relatively comparable thing I’ve had to deal with was tending to select romantic partners based on how familiar my dynamics with them were to me. Having lived in an unhealthy familial environment and with relatively few childhood friends, the only familiar I had was belligerent and punitive. Otherwise, none of my parents, or even from my extended family, are my type. I’m saying this in a literal sense. And this is against a constant, solid background of “like…no, they’re family.”
I love Lemmy. It’s a place where you can post a comment and not know if you’re going to get a vitriolic anarchist taking exception to how you said something, or a detailed, clinical clarification of a point.
On Reddit, you get only the first thing. I live for the second.
Related: I know that incest is currently a popular fetish, but I discovered a long time ago that if a girl looks too much like my sister its an immediate turn-off. It did take me a little while to connect why I found so many models, who seemed to be popular, so unattractive.
I don’t think I’ve ever meet anyone who looks like mom, so that hasn’t been an issue. My wife resembles no-one in my family.
Freud claimed all men want to marry their mothers. I haven’t found this to be commonly true, and now I don’t trust “daddy issues” being common, either.
Humble bragging about your sister…
I even find it weird if a woman has the same name as my mom. She doesn’t have a very common name luckly
Yeah, that would probably geek me out, too. My mom’s name was not a popular girl’s name for my generation, thankfully.
Daddy Issues isn’t the same as “marrying your mother”.
I’ve always heard the former was about having a poor relationship with your father, and the latter about whatever your maternal relationship was like, good or bad.
I had an irrational hatred for Thandie Newton and I didn’t realize why until someone pointed out that she looks like my birth mother.
Ok, but: your mom’s a QT.
Maybe but she’s an abusive psychopath.
Yeah, but the crazy ones are the best in bed. Have you tried fucking her?
not worth it IMO
Oh, sorry about that.
Me too.
It’s not, the Oedipal complex is a correlation. The “marrying one’s parent” phenomenon most certainly has a psychological causality somewhere, but it’s certainly not due to a generally applicable Oedipal complex.
A concrete example, the only relatively comparable thing I’ve had to deal with was tending to select romantic partners based on how familiar my dynamics with them were to me. Having lived in an unhealthy familial environment and with relatively few childhood friends, the only familiar I had was belligerent and punitive. Otherwise, none of my parents, or even from my extended family, are my type. I’m saying this in a literal sense. And this is against a constant, solid background of “like…no, they’re family.”
I love Lemmy. It’s a place where you can post a comment and not know if you’re going to get a vitriolic anarchist taking exception to how you said something, or a detailed, clinical clarification of a point.
On Reddit, you get only the first thing. I live for the second.
Isn’t it just dead simple in that a mother is caring and gives you the feeling of safety, generally speaking, so you look for that in a partner too?
So it’s not that you want to fuck your mom but you look for positive traits in a partner that you parents instilled in you.
Agreed, it’s that familiarity I referenced! But talking from Freud’s perspective, “if it isn’t about sex, then get out of here” (paraphrasing):))