you write it in a special programming language, which is basically English, which describes how you want to see this application in a very specified way

A derivative of English, with different syntax and rules to help eliminate ambiguities? We in the industry tend to call that “code”.

Both based on books by the same dude! Something I didn’t realize for quite some. I need to go read his shit.

Gone in Sixty Seconds.

Moneyball.

Addendum: Kung Fu Panda

I think you’re very pretty - especially naked.

Something I’ve learned about compliments, in general, is to be specific. Like, even outside of the nudity, just “I think you’re very pretty” is rather a poor compliment. Leaving it open-ended like that plays into what others have said in this thread, that it can be interpreted negatively.

In this case, the obvious alternative in my mind is “I really like your tattoos.” That even opens up the opportunity for a conversation about how she got them and what they mean to her. You could could also complement her hair, as you mentioned you appreciated that as well.

asked her if she’d allow me to explain my obvious fuck-up

This is a very natural reaction on your part, and comes from a good place: you’ve recognized that you’ve caused someone pain/harm, and want to help alleviate it. Unfortunately, when it comes to topics where sexuality is involved, I don’t think there’s any scenario where it helps. Not unless they come to you seeking an apology/explanation. The most helpful thing for most people, in this scenario, is to have a little contact as possible with the person who made them uncomfortable. Even if you’re being genuine about this, most people aren’t.

I tried to explain to X again that I wasn’t sexualising her in any way

I think this is especially not going to help, because it’s not an apology. A real, genuine apology for a situation like this involves you recognizing that you did, in fact, do wrong to someone (which, again, in this case, I think you do recognize), so an apology HAS to focus on that.

For me, a true apology has to consist of 3 things:

• Contrition (I.E. “I’m sorry”)
• Understanding (what you did that was wrong, and how it was wrong)
• Amends (what/how you’re going to do better in the future)

Focusing on explaining your side of the story screws up the “understanding” part. It makes it about what SHE did wrong (“you reacted without knowing the full story”) instead of what YOU did wrong (“I didn’t consider that my words would make you uncomfortable”). Alternatively, it’s “you shouldn’t be feeling this way, because you don’t know the whole story” instead of “I shouldn’t have made you feel this way”. Even though that’s not what you meant to say, that’s an entirely understandable way to interpret it.

Explaining your side of the story can still be part of this, but it comes under the “Amends” category. I.E. “I wasn’t trying to sexualize you, so I need to work on avoiding sexualizing language” or “I need to work on choosing my words more carefully, I should be able to compliment someone without it coming off as a sexual thing.”

Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents. If everything you’ve told us is accurate, I think you’re genuinely a fine person, and you just need to file this one away as a learning experience, the best you can. Nothing more to be done about it now.

What’d you have for dinner?

A) And yet, not long after, Andor was massively successful.

B) Then stop making games exclusively based off of third party IPs.

Seems like a jab at CBS prioritizing those kinds of shows over the largely-more-popular Late Show. Alternatively, maybe making a jab at those being the best that CBS has to offer.

These days, mostly for reddit mirror bots.

I dunno what people’s obsession is with Lululemon, and I really don’t care, but that fucking bot alone is like 5% of lemmy/all, these days.

• Always check the Subscriptions page first
• Check Watch Later list, after that
• scroll the Home page, after that

Have never seen a link to a “Trending” page or a “Trending Now” list in any of those spots.

I’m not really sure that being open source here means much of anything, but an SO alternative definitely sounds good. Thanks for the tip.

Sounds loke she found the line for being a fall guy that she wasn’t willing to cross.

Not that anyone really believed Elon isn’t calling all the shots here.

I read it to mean that this method has confirmed “almost no real person has spoken to me”.

Bacon Cheeseburger.

Dude, you obviously have never set FOOT on a farm or tractor, in your LIFE. Stop spreading misinformation.

These are raw marshmallows. Yeah, it’s unbelievable how big they are, but that’s just cause they’re fresh and haven’t dried out yet.