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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • Because men don’t have a strong enough social support system to have cathartic talks about their emotions. Because women aren’t willing to disproportionately shoulder emotional labor anymore.

    The patriarchy hurts everyone. Normalize discussing mental health among men. Don’t let stigma stop you from telling your friends from how much they mean to you and how you’re here if they need to talk.


  • Other people have different needs from you. What if they’re dieting? What if they just worked a 10 hour shift and need to decompress at home? What if they’re disabled and can’t go out often? What if they don’t have friends?

    Let’s not make a moral judgment here. There are far worse things to do than playing steam games like drugs, binge drinking, smoking, committing a robbery, etc.






  • Yes, rat experimentation is the cornerstone of modern medicone, but that doesn’t make it any less fucked up.

    Something can be equally good for people yet completely inhumane. It doesn’t cancel each other out.

    Do I think we should stop experimenting on rats? Absolutely not. But we can try to at least improve the general well-being of these rats and stop deliberately torture them. Peopes have done sleep deprivation experiments where a rat is forced to stay awake or fall in the water and start to drown.


  • The fucked up part are the experiments, not the euthanasia.

    Rats have to be killed because we don’t know if they will continue to suffer after the painful experiments done on them. They can’t be let out either because it can harm the general rat population. Companies don’t give enough of a shit about keeping rats alive in rat retirement homes either.



  • Tiananmen Square? This would be dead obvious to Hong Kongers. Hell, even just ‘1989’ is enough.

    You don’t see people wear shirts that openly criticize the CCP these days. Not after all the arbitrary arrests where even wearing plain black clothing was enough to incriminate you.

    I don’t recommend going to Hong Kong anymore. It’s a husk of its former self. The streets are far emptier, and every other storefront is closed because people and business have packed up and left in droves. If you do, certainly don’t wear this shirt there.



  • Calling all cats psychopathic is like saying ‘all my exes are crazy’. It’s probably you, not them. Cats are very sensitive to body language, and like to have their boundaries respected as though they are 20x their size.

    My cats bring me their favorite toy springs and meow at me until I accept their gift. They follow me everywhere I go, sleep by my side, and huddle up to me when I cry.

    What you described was people liking cats as an ornament, not as a companion. Not to mention, dogs are far easier to train. Someone who enjoys authoritative control would likely prefer dogs over cats.





  • Ironic that you complain about men disappearing in their 40s when this happens so pervasively to women it’s called Invisible Woman Syndrome.

    Aging out of societal relevance is hard for everyone. Let’s not pretend that this is a uniquely male thing, especially when women are pressured to conceal their aging to a far greater degree.



  • I wouldn’t take it so literally. Linda is a placeholder for the wife’s grievances over her husband. She is claiming that he might as well have a different hypothetical partner who is willing to put up with his antics and not get upset about it.

    When people use their dreams as an excuse to express frustration, they don’t mean that what happened in their dream is real. They mean that the outcome of the dream is congruent with their grievances that they are unable to express without a device.

    I don’t think this is a particularly healthy way of dealing with it, but just trying to give people some insight before dismissing their partners as crazy.


  • I agree that men should actively be part of the solution, but there is a healthy way of doing it without involving guilt and self-depracation.

    Men’s mental health is a critical part of feminism. This is because when men’s issues are accepted and destigmatized, it helps destigmatize it for women too. Encouraging mental health support among men means reducing women’s role in providing emotional labor.


  • It is. And no, I’m not one of the good ones.

    Women are tired of ‘man guilt’ the same way PoC are tired of white guilt. At best, it’s self-depracating. At worse, it’s performative. Women want empathy and to be heard, not to hear an empty gesture that then gets weaponized by anti-feminists.