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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • As others have said, the problem is when people refuse to acknowledge new information or admit imperfection.

    You don’t even need to fully admit fault in the moment. If someone provides some contradictory information, you can go “Oh, that’s new to me. I’ll have to read about it.”

    But the problem is people (all of us, to some extent) are emotionally invested in this. Admitting being wrong or imperfect feels like an attack on our security. You have to let that go. No one’s going to hurt you if you admit you forgot the capital of NJ. You don’t have to fight and try to change the argument to “well it should be Princeton” so you can avoid feeling wrong.






  • I was repeatedly disappointed by the class traitors I worked with. They were like “oh we have to work this weekend to get this feature out”.

    Do you? Do you really? Management set this deadline. They fucked up and now it’s “behind schedule”. And it’s a website. It’s not like there’s a factory sitting idle until we’re done, or a family without a home until the project is finished. The impact of “now you can view your project summary and team list side by side” is nil.

    When I pushed back against this, my boss I was bringing down the team’s morale. He said that it doesn’t hurt me if they work longer. Bullshit. They’re providing the same labor I am, but they’re devaluing it. They’re also setting a nasty precedent.

    And you know what? Almost all of us got laid off anyway, including my boss.

    This is also part of why the visa stuff is bullshit. Two of the guys were afraid to make any waves because if they lost their job, they might have to leave the country. Maybe they wouldn’t be so traitorous if their personal security wasn’t on the line.

    Now the CEO is posting memes about how high unemployment is and captioning them “lol”. He’s a middle eastern man that loves Musk. If ICE takes him to a camp I’m going to feel a little bad because of basic humanity, but also laugh really hard at the leopards eating his face.





  • Code reviews are important. Unfortunately, no-test-text guy convinced his whole team that he was right, and I wasn’t able to block it. I’d scheduled a meeting to try to get the wider org to adopt a more sensible standard, but then there was a mass layoff 🤷

    The other guy with the bad messages is at a tiny startup where they’ve laid off almost everyone, and the other 2 guys don’t want to make waves. The CEO is big on “just ship it” (and also “why are there bugs in production? this is unacceptable!!”)




  • I think a lot about something I read years ago. It said something like, “Some people love their country the way a child loves a parent. The parent is the smartest and the best and perfect. Some people love their country the way an adult loves a peer. They see the strengths, the potential, but also the weaknesses and problems that need to be addressed.”

    Conservatives are generally children. Driven largely by emotion with a very simple moral framework. Much like you will likely struggle to explain to a toddler that taking the other kid’s toys, screaming constantly, and shitting in the sandbox won’t make a lot of friends, explaining politics to a conservative is likely to be an ordeal. They don’t care. They have feelings and that is their reality.

    It’s also kind of funny how conservatives are the ones who typically say “reality doesn’t care about your feelings”. Everything is projection.