
Change the mom to a restaurant and it makes more sense. The whole point of paying a restaurant is that each person can get whatever meal they want simultaneously, like how the point of cable or streaming services is to have various kinds of content. If the restaurant decides they’re only going to serve one meal no matter what people order, well, most people aren’t going to pay for that. The mom can do whatever she wants because she isn’t getting paid to make all these meals, and her “customers” are children who aren’t allowed to eat anywhere else.
This is why healing is so important. They didn’t heal, instead they harbored a grudge. It’s just like an abused child growing up and abusing their own children. Some people are unable or unwilling to do the work to break the cycle.