32m just starting to become more comfortable around women. I’ve just been telling myself to start small and ask how one is doing in passing. Just curious to hear from those with more experience and success with women through trial and error
32m just starting to become more comfortable around women. I’ve just been telling myself to start small and ask how one is doing in passing. Just curious to hear from those with more experience and success with women through trial and error
Oh god, that’s terrible advice!
Me with men: “Damn Frank! You see that hottie by the bar?”
“Yeah. I spent the night with her last week! And then again in the morning!”
“Nice!” slaps Franks ass
everybody laughs
The next day:
“Damn Amber! You see that hot stud by the bar?”
“The…the what?”
looks over to bar, only see one person, a guy
“That’s my husband. Wait…are you bi?”
“No. Just treating you like one of the guys. So that’s your husband? Nice!”
slaps ambers ass
deafing silence as Amber rightfully glares
This sounds like more of an issue with how you’re behaving with other men.
we could also say: username checks out!
I don’t think the example you give is a good one. Consent is always important. You don’t slap a dude’s ass without knowing ahead of time that they’re okay with it.
But that aside, there are differences for sure, and I think the most important one is in starting and ending interactions. If you’re a man interacting a woman, you need to be aware of the safety concerns from the woman’s perspective. In almost all interactions, a man can easily leave with no concern for their safety, but it’s not so simple for women, so you’d want to pay closer attention to any signs of discomfort they’re giving off and end the interaction when appropriate, or not starting one if they’re giving “don’t approach me” vibes.
If this is how you treat men, then the OP appears to be one of the smaller problems that you may have
I guess Amber is not a fan of toxic masculinity.
This you?